Fall 2012

Fall 2012
[learning to live a perfectly imperfect life]

How You Look At It


I have always liked sayings... sayings about love, attitude, dreams & success, and life in general. Years ago, I started jotting down sayings I came across that I liked, and every now and then -- especially times like this -- I open up my notebook and read a few.

"I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it." Charles Swindoll

I agree. I really do. And most of the time, I can be thankful... see the glass as half-full... rise to a challenge and make the conscious effort to learn from it...

but sometimes, I just want to tape up lots of colorful streamers, blow up some balloons, bake a really fattening cake with an obscene amount of frosting, and have myself an all-out pity party.

And at my party, I want to let everyone who comes (probably not many) know that "It's not fair." I want to cry and stomp my feet, and declare myself as no longer an adult. I want to go back to being a kid when all I had to worry about was cleaning my room and making sure I didn't get a pink lunch tray (because if I did, it meant I was in love with the other person who had a pink lunch tray.)

And then I want to tell everyone that it's even MORE "not fair" when what's crappy is affecting someone else I love. Someone else that has already been through a lot... someone else who IS a kid and SHOULD only have to worry about cleaning her room. (I think they did away with pink lunch trays, so she's all clear there.)

And when I'm done crying and feel like I'm going to puke because I ate too much cake, I announce that my party is over. I look around and realize that there were quite a few more people there than I'd expected. I assumed no one would want to come to a party where someone who had lots in life to be thankful for was pouting and crying and feeling sorry for herself. But I was surrounded by my parents... my sister, my husband's family, and countless friends. They came. They supported me.

And then I realized that I was ok. My party was over. And after I took down the streamers, popped the balloons, and cleaned up, I was ready to rise to the challenge... to make a conscious effort to learn from it.

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I have to give you some background first -- a little health lesson, if you will. (I want to add a disclaimer that I am definitely not an expert in this but am simply learning from doctors, the internet, and other families who have lived this. So, I'm just "Learning As I Go.")

Kids with Down syndrome have a higher risk (than "typical" kids) of having Atlantoaxial Instability (AAI), which is a gap between the C1 and C2 vertebrae in the neck. (10% of kids with Ds have this but only about 1% of those require surgery, so it's pretty rare.) There is also something called Atlanto-occipital Instability (AOI), which is even more rare. It is a gap between the occipital lobe and the C1 vertebrae.

AAI and AOI are often a-symptomatic, which means there are no symptoms to clue you in that your child has this condition. Therefore, it is recommended that all kids with Ds have C-spine x-ray dones at around age 3 to rule out both AAI and AOI.

Okay, health lesson complete. Now, on to Rylee...

We knew about these possible conditions with children with Ds, and had an x-ray done when Rylee was 3 years old. Her doctor told us that she did not have either AAI or AOI... that everything looked good and we were "all clear."

Recently, during a routine appointment with Rylee's Developmental Pediatrician, the topic of C-spine x-rays was casually brought up. I said we'd had those done at age 3 and were all clear there. Her doctor was curious about the x-rays, (as he was not the doctor that ordered them) and so he pulled her charts. Turns out the x-ray ordered was not one in which you could determine the presence or absence of AAI/AOI. *sigh* Feeling frustrated yet confident there was nothing to worry about, we scheduled a repeat x-ray.

A few weeks later, I took Rylee in for her x-rays. She was a total champ (doctors' visits are never easy for us) and I was pleasantly surprised at how cooperative she was! We celebrated with a stop at the park on the way home.

The doctor called later that afternoon with the results... AOI.

Wasn't expecting it at all.

Her doctor said we needed to watch Rylee's physical activity very carefully until we found out more. (We had to re-plan her upcoming Birthday Party at a local gymnastics academy, take down our trampoline, and let all of her teachers/therapists know what was going on.) We know now that if she were to hurt her neck or fall on her neck or anything like that, it would be much more serious than other kids. (Not to be an alarmist... but easy paralysis or worse.) He then referred us to a Pediatric Orthopedic Surgeon.

After meeting with the surgeon, it became obvious to us that it was more serious than we originally thought. Here's my simple description of it... (please remember my disclaimer about not being a doctor.) When the base of the spine and the 1st vertebrae bend (mostly when Rylee extends her neck up) they are not staying parallel but instead are shifting and becoming uneven. Therefore, the amount of space Rylee's spinal cord has is being reduced. To find out just how much space the spinal cord does have, and to get an even better look at what we're dealing with, an MRI is recommended.

And so, that is what we'll do. Rylee is scheduled to have a (sedated) MRI done next Thursday, November 4.

So then what?

Well, we're not sure. Or maybe we think we know but aren't willing to let our minds go ahead to that.

It's such a tough balance. Taking things one step at a time. Not getting ahead of things... not planning for things we don't know about... not researching things that may never happen. I want to be thinking positive thoughts about an MRI with baffling results. (You know, I wouldn't mind it if Rylee threw the doctors for a loop. "I swear I saw AOI on the x-rays, didn't you? But you see here? On the MRI? Nothing. Hmmm. She's a little miracle.")

But we want to be prepared. We want to be realists. If and when we need a 2nd opinion, we want to have determined where that will be, and maybe even have an appointment set up. We want to be researching where the best damn Pediatric Orthopedic Surgeon is in the country. We want the doctor who could do a spine fusion surgery in their sleep. (Okay, maybe not our surgery...) We want to know everything we need to know.

Someone I was talking to about this asked if I was really mad at the doctor who ordered the wrong type of x-ray and gave us "clearance" years ago. And you know, I could be. But I'm not. The doctor made a mistake, and though I will be sure this doctor knows about the mistake so it is not made again, I'm not mad. Instead, I'm incredibly thankful that Rylee is okay... that after years of jumping on our trampoline and taking gymnastics classes and tumbling around with her little brother, nothing has happened. I'm incredibly thankful we found out now so we can keep her safe and prevent anything from happening in the future. And I'm incredibly thankful that I can share our story with other families.

(So, for a quick, but very important sidebar: If you have a child with Ds, here's the scoop!
When you take your child in to be x-rayed, it is especially important to be sure the doctor writes the correct orders and the radiologist follows through and gets the right views of your child's neck. They should take 3 x-rays from the side... one in which your child is looking down (flexion), one looking straight ahead (lateral), and one looking up (extension).

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Many of our family and friends (you know, the ones who came to my party mentioned above) who already know about this have asked what they can do... this is what we're asking:

If you know anything about AOI, please share! If you know where research is being done on this, or where the best doctors & surgeons are to treat & repair AOI in the country, please pass it along! And if you don't know anything about this, but know of someone who DOES, please pass along my blog and ask them to read this post! (You can also send good thoughts to us next Thursday for Rylee's MRI... and visualize some baffling MRI results!)

Thanks for supporting our family.

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When we walked out into the Pumpkin Patch, we noticed all of the small pumpkins had already been picked. So, what was left for us were the really big pumpkins... you know, the ones that you grab underneath and then it starts to slip so one hand grabs for the stem to balance it and the stem breaks off and the pumpkin goes tumbling onto the ground and you realize that it got a little squashed during it's tumble so you leave it for someone who wants a squashed pumpkin because you're looking for a perfect pumpkin for carving? Yup, that's all that was left.

Rylee takes off in one direction and Carter in the other. Jeremy and I split up to help with these monstrous pumpkins, because they will certainly be too big for the kids to carry themselves.




"Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew." Unknown

Good thing I never told her she couldn't do it. Not sure why I doubted her.

We know she can handle anything. She's proved it time and time again.

That Time Again

It's that time again. When the leaves blow around and gather in the far corner of the deck, hiding behind the grill. (You know, the grill which has yet to be put away because by putting it away we are surrendering to winter.) The time when we have to allow for 3 and a half more minutes in the morning for coat-zipping and mitten-searching. The time when our dog's potty breaks outside reduce from 15 minutes to 2 minutes because she's not a fan of the temperature change. The time when you can go to the store and buy a fake spider to hang in the window, Pilgrim and Native American placemats, and kitchen towels with embroidered jingle bells and sleighs -- all within 3 aisles. (Seriously, can we just get through one holiday at a time?!)

And how could I forget? The time when you find yourself sneaking into your child's Halloween bucket, devouring several treats they got at their school party that you hope they won't notice are missing, and wonder why you didn't wait to join the gym until after the holidays.


The kiddos picked out their Halloween costumes this year... after Carter's Birthday Party, it's no surprise that this Sunday we'll be having a space ranger roaming the streets. And Rylee -- well, she started out wanting to be a "Princess" but the costume she liked had wings. Therefore, "Fairy" came into play and suddenly we were a "Fairy Princess." (Sounds good to me.)







(Carter is, indeed, wearing official Buzz Lightyear space boots. And if you happen to have a little one desiring such boots, go buy a pair of rain boots, a roll of white duct tape, and a bottle of lime green paint. They are pretty cool if I do say so myself, and I'm considering starting an Esty shop online.)

So, we're excited for school parties, bite-sized Snickers bars, silly Halloween games, spider rings, Tootsie Rolls, glow sticks, Trick-or-Treating, and weighing in at the gym.

(If you want to stroll down Halloween Lane with our family, here's what Halloween from years past have looked like!)

Have a great Halloween weekend!

Wordless Wednesday


Says It All


I still have writer's block.

But for now,


Carter's face



says



it



all.


Writer's Block


Ever since I took my several-months-long "blog hiatus," my "to-blog-about" list has grown. This blog serves as sort of a diary for our family, and each time we experience an event or milestone, I want to capture it here.

But I'm at a loss for words.

I have about 4 posts saved as drafts... some of them with pictures, none of them complete. I type a few words, then hit "delete" about 18 times. There have been even more posts that I've begun to write but have wound up deleting the whole post. Nothing funny. Nothing interesting. Nothing worth clicking "publish post."

It's not that I don't have great things to blog about... Carter's first days of Preschool, our Buddy Walk... I should be overflowing with words.

But the words just aren't coming lately. (Even this super-boring post with no fun pictures has taken me a ridiculously-long time to write.)

Is that what's called a "writer's block?"

If so, then I have it.

Maybe there's some herbal remedy I can take for it.

Oooh, that's a thought.

Be back later. Hopefully soon.

I'm off to "google."

What I'm Doing

I have lots of fun things to catch up on here... we've had a busy few months! Starting preschool, picking pumpkins, studying for our very 1st spelling tests, playing in the leaves...

but I can't write today.

Because I'm busy.

I'll leave you with a little peek in on what I'm doing today.



Any specific guesses?

Hope you're enjoying your Saturday! Be back soon with more fall fun from our house!